Toowoomba woman waited years to tell husband one thing
KIRRALEE Murdoch has waited the longest time to be able to say one thing to her husband - Happy Father's Day.
Toowoomba woman Mrs Murdoch and her husband Dylan, both 27, celebrated 10 years together this year and in February welcomed their first child Madison. But it was not an easy road to get there.
"We have been married for six years and we just had the view if it happens, it happens," Mrs Murdoch said of having a baby.
"When it didn't, we thought maybe something was not quite right, so that is why we went to IVF."
The couple first started IVF about three years ago and went through two full egg retrievals before falling pregnant.
While couples are often told what the problem is when they have trouble conceiving, Mrs Murdoch said their problem was unable to be explained. Unexplained fertility issues account for only about 20 per cent of couples, according to the Queensland Fertility Group where the couple went for help.
"The week I found out I was pregnant we had a holiday booked in for the Northern Territory, for Territory Day," Mrs Murdoch said.
"Because we had a holiday booked I had to go in and do the test four days early.
"I wasn't going to get my hopes up. But when I went back to get my results they were all there standing and waiting for me and I knew it had worked."
While Mrs Murdoch had finally fallen pregnant, she suffered intense morning sickness from seven weeks until the end of her pregnancy.
"At nine weeks I had a pretty significant bleed and I thought it was all over. That went onto be another unexplained event, but there was nothing wrong with Maddy," she said.
Madison was finally born via caesarean at St Vincent's Private Hospital on February 20.
The family-of-three will spend their first Father's Day again in the Northern Territory, at the Red CentreNATS, where Mr Murdoch has been working for the past few years.
"We still talk about how we can't believe she is ours," Mrs Murdoch said.
"We have nieces and nephews and godchildren and we have always been a massive part in their lives.
"But now we are going to have our own school concerts and things like that. It is all a bit surreal."
Mrs Murdoch added her husband always knew he would have a daughter named Madison.
"One of our first-ever getaways we went to was the Gold Coast and he told me he wanted a little girl named Madison. We bought two little key chains with Madison and another with a boy's name," she said.
"10 years later we have a Madison and in her glory box I have put that little key chain."
With Fathers Day just a day away, Mrs Murdoch is grateful for what a great dad her husband is.
"He has always been the biggest guy's guy and into cars, motorbikes and all that sort of stuff," she said.
"Him with a little girl is completely different and I never thought he would have taken control in the way he did.
"The first couple of nights after my caesarean he took on the nappy changes, the first bath and it was pretty phenomenal to watch."
Mrs Murdoch also wants other couples, who are still maybe waiting to have their first Mother's or Father's Day, to seek help.
"If you do think or suspect something is wrong, you don't want to waste time," she said.