LETTER: Vows should end when violence starts

WHILE I agree with many of Olga George's comments (NM, 29/9), I would like to add that as a mature male, I grew up in a period when it was normal for the husband to work and the wife to maintain the home.

I think in that time we were more responsible and did our best to provide for our families the best we could, and it was difficult.

But I'm sure our expectations and wants were much lower.

Today we are surrounded by temptations such as gambling, drinking and smoking; things like that place excessive pressures on families.

I dislike how the media places the blame for domestic violence primarily on the male.

I firmly believe that no one should strike anyone and there must be a consequence for those who do.

I think a good place to start changing things would be for all couples in relationships to renew their marriage vows and commitment ceremonies.

And for those who are having difficulties, I suggest you consider making promises before your friends and family.

Assure your partner you will love, honour and respect them, but only until a hand is raised - at which point the vow/commitment ends.

DAVE PATERSON

Qunaba



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