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How to find out if he really is that into you

HOW do you know the guy you're seeing loves you?

How can you tell he's really falling for you and it's not a fling to him?

Many a woman have wondered this, and while there's no magic formula there are some reliable signs that he's head over heels for you.

1. You're the number one priority in his life

He will drop his plans or whatever he's doing to help you, or be with you. This signals that you are a priority and his care and concern centers around you.

2. He makes you close to the people he loves

He introduces you to his family, and circle of friends. More than once. He is affectionate with you in front of them and uses "we" a lot. It's a big deal to integrate a new partner into your life, your close circle and your loved one, so if he's gone beyond the initial introduction and including you in his social life with people who are meaningful, then it's very likely love, or on it's way to love.

3. He thinks about more than today

He discusses future plans together. Not just about your relationship, but shares his dreams for the future. If he considers you part of his future, then you can tell it's serious. But you can also tell if his feelings are deepening if he talks about his hopes and dreams for the future generally, and wants to share them with you. He wants you to know him and that increases intimacy and love.

4. He treats you like you matter

He seeks your opinion on matters that are personal and values the opinion you share. In a true partnership, both partners will value one another's perspectives, wisdom and opinions. If he is doing this, then you're in his heart and mind.

5. He puts your interests before his

He does things he make not like very much, but knows you like, and that's important enough for him. Love is often a choice, to extend yourself for and towards another person. If your man does things for you that you know he'd never choose himself, whether it's a big or a little thing, it's probably love.

6. He loves you outside the bedroom 

He doesn't just lust you but also listens to you. You can tell love is happening when he's just as happy (or almost) talking with you and building your connection outside the bedroom as spending every minute together taking one another's clothes off.

7. He takes care of you if you're unwell 

He takes care of you if you're sick. Men aren't always known for being the best nurses, but if his nurturing and caring instincts kick in when you're sick and he asks what you need, and genuinely wants to do what he can for you, then you know he thinks you're pretty special.

8. He has a genuine interest in your life

He wants to know everything about you, wants to meet your family, get to know your friends, and is deeply interested in your life, thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams. If he's really falling in love with you, he will be intensely interested in everything about you and your world.

9. He incorporates romance 

He's romantic with you - which doesn't necessarily mean chocolates, cuddles and flowers, but rather means he makes the effort and time to find out what's meaningful to you as a woman to be desired and adored, and then does that with his own thought and flair. And to top it all off, he tells you he loves you.

10. He shows you how important you are to him

He makes it known to you that you are important to him. This can be in a variety of ways: he could say it, but he could also show it by appreciating you, appreciating the things he knows are important to you, responding to calls, texts and emails quickly and lovingly, and integrating you into his daily life.

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