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OPINION: Completely confused by gender fluid

I PLAYED with my sister's Barbies as a kid.

Not many people know that, but I trust you to keep my little secret.

Despite it all, however, I have grown to be a young man more than comfortable with my sexuality.

In light of some of this week's news, I wish I was speaking for all of us.

For those of you not quite sure what I'm talking about, celebrities such as Ruby Rose and Miley Cyrus have recently announced themselves as "gender fluid".

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For those of you still not quite sure what I'm talking about, "gender fluidity" is the new age term apparently assigned to people who view themselves as both male and female.

And for those of you even still not quite sure what I'm talking about, well, don't worry: I'm still completely lost myself.

Now, I understand that the world is a constantly changing place, with new norms entering the fray seemingly with more regularity than Elton John buying a new pair of glasses.

But gender fluidity?

Come on.

I applaud the thirst for breaking the shackles of gender stereotypes.

Considering we are now well into the 21st Century, we really don't do that enough.

Despite it all, however, I have grown to be a young man more than comfortable with my sexuality.

The trouble is, though, this is just making a whole new gender stereotype in itself.

Specifically, a gender stereotype that doesn't even know which gender it applies to.

I'm not saying it's not okay to have both feminine and masculine qualities.

I'm just asking the question: isn't it better to at least identify as one?

An article I read on the topic earlier this week told the story of a Victorian woman (or, indeed, Victorian man, presumably depending on which day of the week it is) who has two "identities".

To put it another way, "Roxanne" and "Bobby J" are, quite literally, the same person.

This is not just a private thing he or she does at home.

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Oh no.

In fact, so invested in their gender diversity are Roxanne and Bobby J that the two of them (or one of them) even turn up to the workplace as both.

To me, that's where it all goes too far.

Associating with individuals from any minority group within society should be simple, as we should be able to see that person - note, not people - as that person sees themselves.

But if individuals give themselves numerous personas, doesn't it make all of that a little clouded?

In other words: pick one.

This is all pretty raw, and I'm aware of the risks I am taking by jumping on the uber-conservative bandwagon here.

And yes, it could be argued that people regrettably held similar feelings towards the LGBT community in years of old.

Still, there is a difference here.

Gay and lesbian people identify as being sexually attracted to the same sex.

That's identity.

Transgender people identify as actually being the opposite sex.

That's identity.

And now gender fluid people wish to identify as both genders.

That's…identity?

No. That's uncertainty.

And in an age when we should be encouraging people young and old with sexual uncertainties to simply find comfort in their own identities, I'm not too sure a couple of celebrities flaunting this latest little fad is as healthy as some may think.

But then, the same could be said about a young boy who plays with Barbies.

That secret is still safe though, right?

Topics:  gender, opinion




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