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Are bad boys really bad, and do you want to go there?

BAD boys, what are you going to do when they come  for you?

Yesterday I was sitting on the train listening to people's conversations and I thought,  is that rude,  or silently interfering with someone's mind and deepest thoughts?

They both sat crouched deep in their seats, wore leather jackets and had sharply groomed beards which gave them that bad boy vibe.

It's a common feeling that we're best to stay away from these types of men, but there's always a suspicion, thought, want or need, and we tend to go towards them anyway.

They offer mystery, passion and suspense and danger.

This may be bad for us, but it's the drive and passion we get, that non-bad boys can't give us.

Those types of feelings make us feel good about ourselves, and make us want more and more, because of this common image and thoughts that society puts in our heads. 

I would have never interfered in what they were saying until they started engaging in more conversation with each other.

Their conversations were actually really smart, and resourceful.

The thought would have  never come to me  till they spoke about the cost and comparing of movie theatres  between Brisbane and  the cultural Melbourne.

This  then led on to more conversations about student concessions,  and how people go about getting these types of discounts as adult pricing is sky rocketing, especially with public transport and entertainment.

From this experience, I have no problem when a bad boy comes towards me.

We should never judge some one beforehand , as we don't know anything about their life.

But I guess everyone is different and if you get that gut feeling it probably does mean something and you should go with that feeling and make the decision yourself.

Bad boys don't seem to interfere in your daily life, you can count on them at times in need.

But the downfall would probably be that they won't be committed to you and may love you for the wrong reasons.

Would love even exist if you were with such a person?

A bad boy may be a super idea at the time but in the long run we would not foster a long-term relationship.

Ladies, now please don't get confused between a bad boy and  a casual hook-up with an intimate friend.

They will probably give you that feeling and urge but I guess it's your choice if you continue to engage in it. 

The ones I know of, tend to fulfill and comfort me, they are there for me on a different level.

Their minds work differently and make the most simple things feel good, like you're on top of the world and nothing can hurt you.

Sometimes I wonder if I need a boyfriend when I can get these feelings of desire and passion from such a person.

Nothing holds you back and you can be as free as you want, nothing holding each other back, just expressing yourselves to each other.

Or am I just with the wrong type of male, that I'd consider calling him my boyfriend?

 

Nadz is a 20-something Queensland girl who blogs about life, love, friendship and fluffy animals. 

Topics:  columns, dating, opinion, relationships




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